A “solo” polyamorous person chooses to lead a single life, on their own, away from their various partners. This is what I personally identify with the most. Except for the brief period when I was married to a monoamorous person and practised monoamory myself in that relationship, I have never lived in a long-term domestic partnership with anyone. I mention “longterm” specifically because even short live-in situations – for days or weeks – are forms of sharing the domestic life which comes with its own share of harsh and sweet realities.

While I really enjoy having people home – and thus the short stays are frequent between all kinds of partners and friends – the longer, more permanent domestic partnership has not happened for me. Not even with primary partners. I used to think this was accidental. Most of my partners lived settled lives in other cities, and my own frequent and long travel itineraries both for work and pleasure kept me mostly away from home. I must also confess that I have a particularly eccentric living pattern with very odd hours, for which, leave alone others agreeing to cohabit with me, on some days I find living with myself quite...